Condolence: My mom was such a unique person and as cliche’ as this might sound, If you look up superwoman I would be surprised not to see my mothers picture there, because there was nothing this woman couldn’t do. Literally! Paint a house, fix a roof, mow a lawn, fix appliances, build an armoire, the list is endless!

I talked to my mom every single day. Even to say something so simple and meaningless, but she wanted to hear it and I wanted to hear it from her. I knew one day it would end, I’ve tried to so hard to prepare for this. I would be calling her anxious for her to pick up these last 6 months, worried she wouldn’t.

To say you knew my mom fully would be pretty hard, because there were so many pieces of my mom, so many layers, so many amazing stories. I am one of the lucky ones that got to know, see and meet most of those layers. She was never afraid to start a new chapter.
When I play her story in my head, I can only smile.

Thank Goodness she was married to my dad Milton Lehner though, because she was very stubborn and very spontaneous and she would worry about any and all of consequences after the fact. Being stubborn isn’t always a bad thing, she was a determined woman and when she set her mind to something, it got done.

Our relationship shifted when my dad died. I went from being her daughter to being her equal, she needed me as much as I needed her. And I learned how to take care of her.
She spent her whole life doing for us, so I didn’t mind that I now had to take care of her.

So how do I move on? I have to be grateful for all the amazing times we had together. We laughed, we cried, we grew together.

One of my fondest recent memories would be 4 years ago Jon and I flew to Gothenburg Sweden with her and stayed on the beautiful island of Styrso with my cousin Nina and her daughter Alice, it was nothing short of perfect with Sweden in the World cup that summer, we had a blast!

I could not have been the mother I am without her guidance from when they were infants all the way up until now. She was such an incredible role model of determination and never saying “I can’t”.

My mom learned how to speak fluent english she said by watching cartoons and through idioms or phrases. Her favorite in Swedish is Människan spår och Gud rår.
Man plans, God laughs! Love you! Debbie

Condolence:

Condolence: Sorry if a little wordy but Aunt May was not a casual acquaintance. Too many memories to mention.

I knew back then this was a special time and felt lucky to be a part of it. (And looked forward each time we'd pack into the car heading up to Orangeburg). Great house, great layout, backyard & swimming pool-beautiful fireplace & always immaculate.
Aunt May was at the Very Center of it (my world). She knew not only my grandmother but my grandmother's family. A different world. All long gone.
Aunt May's very essence was Warmth, Love, Family and Life, amongst a whole host of other flavors & qualities, like Sweden and inner strength.
Hearing her voice from the other room. Kibitzing with Uncle Milty, Heshy & Flo and later Arnie & his wife, while in conversation with my mother in the kitchen-watching over a stupendous meal and us, while caressing a delicious mug of coffee. She could do Everything (& I do mean Everything) and seemingly effortlessly. She was truly amazing.
The family gatherings for all of the holidays, birthdays, bar & bat mitzvahs, anniversaries and weddings--Loved every second of it.
Each of us carry-on a small piece of the very spirit of May-(whether we realize it or not).
I'm grateful that our paths crossed & feel fortunate that we got to spend a lot of critically important time in my life together, because she was such a good role model. In every way.
Sometimes you can look into someone's eyes to get a good understanding. May Lehner loved me & I loved her. Plain & simple.
Aunt May will be sorely missed but forever remembered. Thank You Aunt May.
My heart goes out to Debbie, Steve, Michael and their families.
Charles Berkley

Condolence: May Lehner, age 84, loving mother of 3 and wife to Milton Lehner, passed away on the morning of July 5th, 2022. She leaves behind her 2 sons Steven Plotnick (wife Gail), Michael Lehner (wife Ellen) and Daughter Debra Lampert (husband Jonathan). Her 7 grandchildren, Mathew Plotnick, William Plotnick, Madeline Plotnick, Kasey Lehner, Paige Lehner, Rachel Lampert and Jenna Lampert.

May Andersson was born in Gothenburg, Sweden. She lived with her mom Edith and sister Britt. May grew up extremely poor, but overcame many hardships. Her fondest memories growing up were spending the summers on a farm. She loved the animals and the family she stayed with. May loved sports in school. She loved running and the high jump. She was on the boys ice hockey team in high school. May also loved sailing and skiing.
On January 1st, 1960 May left Sweden and flew to New York. She was 22 years old. She was married to Lester Plotnick and had 3 beautiful children. Her marriage did not last and she built a new life with Milton Lehner.
They moved to Orangeburg, New York on July 4th, 1973 when May was 35.
May was an extremely hard worker. She waitressed at night while going to nursing school. We were all so proud of her when she became a nurse!
May loved when her family from Sweden visited. Her sister Britt, Her mom Edith, her niece Nina (her husband Peter and daughter Alice too).
May loved to garden and fix up her house. She loved to travel, cruising and cooking. 3 beautiful weddings, 7 positively perfect grandchildren.
May's story did not end there. At the age of 70 when May was widowed, she moved to Florida and learned how to play golf and fell in love with the sport. She loved her friends there and playing cards and shuffle board. Proving once again, it is never too late to learn something new!
All her grandkids loved May's Swedish pancakes and felt her unconditional love she had for all of them while she babysat, visited and attended their events.